A Precision Relationship Assessment

Know yourself.
Know each other.

A four-part assessment built for people who believe genuine self-knowledge is the foundation of every relationship worth having.

"Most relationship tools tell you what you want to hear. This one tells you what you need to know."

Grounded Pillars is designed for the rare person who believes genuine self-understanding — even when uncomfortable — is the foundation of every relationship worth having. If you're looking for validation, this probably isn't for you. If you're looking for truth, you're in the right place.

🔍9 dimensions. Revealed at the end.The assessment measures across nine distinct areas — personality, attachment, relationships, physical health, faith orientation, moral foundations, and more. You'll see your full profile when your results arrive. This is intentional.

⏱Start with 25 minutes. The first part is free and takes about 25 minutes. Complete the values and compatibility sections when you're ready — each one builds on the last.

🔒Private by designYour results live in your browser. Nothing is transmitted or stored externally.

🔗Built for two. You each complete it independently. A code at the end lets you generate a full compatibility report together.

📐Grounded in researchBuilt on industry-standard psychometric instruments, developed and validated by leading researchers in personality, relationship, and moral psychology. Full citations in your results.

Clinical-Grade Assessment

Want the real instruments?

The free assessment uses carefully designed proxy questions. The Deep Dive replaces them with the actual validated instruments — 230 items, clinical-grade scoring, real percentiles.

✓ 100-item BFAS with full facet scores ✓ ECR-R attachment percentiles ✓ Validated Moral Foundations (MFQ-20) ✓ NPI-16 narcissism screen ✓ Religious Orientation Scale ✓ Physical health stature module

Take the Deep Dive — $49 →

~45 minutes · Same archetype system · Real percentile scores

Readiness

Are you ready?

Genuine readiness for a serious relationship isn't about perfection — it's about wholeness. These questions are designed to surface patterns worth examining before you invite someone else into them.

Be honest. No one else sees these answers.

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Values & Dealbreakers

What do you stand for?

Personality tells you how someone shows up. Values tell you what they are building toward.

These questions surface the convictions, commitments, and non-negotiables that determine whether two lives can actually merge. Answer honestly — compatibility analysis only works if the inputs are true.

Money & Provision

Financial incompatibility is one of the top drivers of relationship dissolution. These questions surface your actual philosophy, not your aspirations.

Family & Structure

Expectations about children, roles, and family structure are among the least negotiable compatibility variables.

Lifestyle & Ambition

How you spend time, where you want to live, and how you define a good life.

Mind & Worldview

Intellectual culture and political worldview alignment — not about agreement on every issue, but about shared frameworks for thinking about the world.

Faith & Spiritual Life

Select your faith identity. Additional questions specific to your tradition will appear.

Expectations & Roles

For each domain, indicate how it was handled in your family of origin — then how you expect it to work in your own relationship. The gap is often where friction lives.

Sexuality & Intimacy

Physical and emotional intimacy are central to long-term partnership health. Start with the fundamentals — you'll be invited to go further at your own pace.

Dealbreakers

Select every item that is genuinely non-negotiable for you. Be honest — these become your stated compatibility filters.

Ready to see your full profile?

Your answers are encoded into your code. Share it with a partner to generate your compatibility report.

Your Values & Code

This is your complete code. It includes your personality profile and values alignment. Share it with a partner — they paste it into Compatibility along with their own code.

Values Profile

Your Values Profile

Your answers across Money, Family, Lifestyle, Mind, and Faith — encoded into a values profile for compatibility matching.

Your Code

Share this with a partner for your compatibility report

This is your complete code. Share it with a partner — they enter it in Compatibility alongside their own code to generate your report.

Compatibility Report

Are you right for each other?

Each person completes the assessment and gets a code. Paste both codes here to generate your compatibility report.

Enter Your Codes

Your code appears on your results page after completing the assessment. Complete values alignment to get a longer code that unlocks the full report.

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Almost There

Before your results —
a few quick questions.

These help us contextualize your scores. All optional — skip any you'd prefer not to answer.

Name (optional)

Personalizes your results and makes partner compatibility reports feel like they're about real people. Your name is visible only to you and anyone you share your result code with.

Gender

Age

Relationship Status

Relationship Length

Faith Tradition

Children

Your answers are stored only in your browser and are never transmitted.

Your Closest Profile

Shadow Archetype

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When this profile goes wrong

Your Four Pillars

Physical · Mind · Spiritual · Social

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Physical

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Mind

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Spiritual

Cross-Framework Snapshot

Attachment Style

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Love Language

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Conflict Patterns

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Personality Structure

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True Colors

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Narcissism Index

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Faith Orientation

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Moral Foundations

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Physical Health

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Your Code

Share this with your partner — they enter it alongside their own code in Compatibility.

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Ready to compare?

Enter your partner's code below, then head to Compatibility for the full report.

Clinical-Grade Assessment

Go deeper.

You've seen the archetype. The Deep Dive shows you the science underneath it — replacing every proxy question with the actual validated instrument it was designed to estimate.

Personality

BFAS-100 · Full Big Five with all 10 aspects · JP's instrument

Attachment

ECR-R 36-item · Anxiety + avoidance percentiles

Readiness

46-item battery · Differentiation · Forgiveness · Wellbeing · Foundations · Skills · Intent

Values & Character

MFQ-20 Moral Foundations · NPI-16 Narcissism · Religious Orientation Scale

Take the Deep Dive — $49 →

~45 minutes · Same archetype system · Real percentile scores · Includes compatibility report

About this Assessment Grounded Pillars is a self-reflection tool grounded in industry-standard psychometric instruments. It is not a clinical diagnostic and should not be used as a substitute for professional psychological evaluation.

Primary Sources

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Know yourself.Know each other.

Are you ready?

What do you stand for?

Your Values Profile

Are you right for each other?

Before your results —a few quick questions.

The Deep Dive.All of you.

Know yourself.
Know each other.

Before your results —
a few quick questions.

The Deep Dive.
All of you.